Motivational Monday

Motivational Monday: Friends

Written by: Noah Martinez-Bochman

Happy Monday everyone! I hope you all had a great weekend and did something exciting. If not, and you just sat at your bed with a bowl of ice cream, simply contemplating life, that’s basically my favorite every-day activity. I’m just messing with you, I don’t do that. Don’t I? Well, either way, hope everyone’s doing well, and let’s get to a simple topic that I’m sure a lot of us love, and a lot of us dread: friends.

RVA stands for Relationships, Values, and Academics. The “R” is first for a reason, guys! It’s not “Academics, Values, Homework, and I-Guess-Relationships.” Our school’s first priority is relationships, both between teachers and students, and students with other students. It took me a while to reason just how important this was. It is vital to have a support group of people who are there to talk to, who will help and support you, have laughs with, and ultimately be able to breathe with after a long school day. In my first year of RVA, (I’m onto my fourth), I stayed to myself and didn’t reach out to anyone. Wow, was that not smart, good job younger-Noah. I realized that once I made friends who loved me and I loved, then school wasn’t so much of an obligation, but more of an activity, something I could actually look forward to every morning (I mean, besides weekends obviously). Just because we’re not all in the same building, the same city, the same county, doesn’t mean we can’t have just as strong of bonds as those public schooler’s down the street.

Now you may be thinking as you sit there watching your sad romance movies, “But Noah, what if I don’t have any friends?” Fear not friend, because it’s not as hard as it seems. As someone who’s struggled with making friends and bullying, I get how hard it is. Honestly. But all you have to do is find someone in any of your classes, anyone who seems interesting, anyone who has something in common with, just anyone. Say hi, and ask if you can talk after class. Follow through and send them a Google Hangouts message. Make the first move. If it all works out, which I promise, it will, you’ll have found yourself a new friend. It’s scary at first, but once you do it and you start talking, it’s so worth it. Plus, if you ever really need a friend, just shoot me a message, I’d be happy to be your friend!

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” - C.S. Lewis

Finding one thing you have in common with someone could lead to a life-long friend, a romantic relationship, or just someone to have fun with.

Anyways, my point is that having a friend is so beneficial to school life. It helps give you a breather; gives you a peer to study or work with, partner projects, conversation, and many more things that are all good factors of friendship here. Some of my very best friends go to RVA, and it’s so easier to be in an online school if you have people to do it with. To those people who make my life better in our school, thank you, you mean the world to me.

If you think you don’t need to have friends, or that you don’t need to have any relationships to succeed, sorry, but you’re mistaken. Relationships are RVA’s first priority, and they should be yours too. You will see your day in such a different light, such a happier vibe, you’ll actually look forward to school if you just reach out to someone. That’s it, reach out to someone you don’t know, and see what happens. It could change your life. And like I said, I’m here too if you’re looking for a good friend!

Anyways guys and girls, my ice creams melting, so I gotta run. But like I said, just try. That’s it. You’ll find someone who you can connect with, and the rest is history. Let me know how it goes! I’m always here, well, not in a stalker-ish way, but you know what I mean. You matter and I hope you find great joy and progress with your RVA social life this week. Have a great week and be the change you want to say. Adios!